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For one of Barney's many theories, see Platinum Rule.
The Platinum Rule

HIMYM episode 3x11 (55)

Platinum rule - barney and wendy
First aired:
December 10, 2007
Pamela Fryman
Carter Bays
Craig Thomas

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Ted wants to ask out his dermatologist against the gang's advice. They take turns recounting tales of how relationships with people they saw on a regular basis have backfired.


Ted tells the others he is planning on taking out his tattoo removal doctor, Stella Zinman, to a movie. They all think it is a bad idea and Barney explains why. The Platinum Rule means you should never date someone you will see on a regular basis, Barney explains that such relationships never work out in the end and lead to never-ending suffering as those involved would constantly see each other. Barney explains the eight stages which this relationship inevitably goes through and applies his theory on three previous failed relationships: his dating of Wendy the Waitress in 2005, Marshall and Lily befriending their neighbors in 2006, and Robin dating co-anchor Curt Irons in 2007.

The stages are:

  1. Attraction
  2. Bargaining
  3. Submission
  4. Perks
  5. Tipping Point
  6. Purgatory
  7. Confrontation
  8. Fall Out
  9. Co-existence (added by Ted)


  • Ted thought another dermatologist, Sarah O'Brien, was perfect for him too when Love Solutions showed her to be a good match in Matchmaker.
  • Ted mentions the Lemon Law from The Duel and the Hot-Crazy Scale from How I Met Everyone Else when ranting about Barney's rules.
  • Barney apparently attempts to seduce Wendy the Waitress again in Brunch, which occured in 2006, though this attempt is unsuccesful as he is "rack-jacked" by Ted's dad.
  • Ted's "date" with Stella is later shown in Ten Sessions, including her informing him that she isn't allowed to date patients due to a rule from the American Medical Association
  • Ted argues that if his relationship with Stella "does is not going to be because of some rule." Ironically, in Shelter Island, Stella leaves Ted at the altar because he violates the rule about never inviting an ex to one's wedding.
  • In Happily Ever After, Ted lets go of his anger at Stella for moving in with Tony after their break-up in the way Future Ted describes when proposing "Co-existence" as the ninth step of the Platinum Rule.
  • Barney's paranoia about Wendy the Waitress trying to kill him is referenced again in Sorry, Bro. In the same episode, Robin mentions having lunch with Curt after they broke up.


For a listing of all images on the wiki tagged as being from this episode, see Category:The Platinum Rule images.

Memorable QuotesEdit

Wendy: Wow! That was an interesting use of the beverage gun!
Barney: Club soda can get anything off.
After having sex behind the bar

Notes and TriviaEdit

Goofs and ErrorsEdit

  • The Girards seems to live in the same apartment as Mrs. Matsen.
    • However, the Girards could have moved out in the two years between their friendship with Marshall and Lily and Mrs. Matsen's first appearance in season 4.
  • When playing charades with the Girards during the Tipping Point section both Girards are seen acting out the same clue which is not how you play charades.
  • Ted claims that the (real) Golden Rule, to do to others as you would want them to do to you, is from the Bible. However, the concept predates Christianity and can be found in almost all major religions, and was not actually named the "Golden Rule" until the 17th century. In addition, "love thy neighbour as thyself" is actually considered one of the variant wordings of the Golden Rule.

Allusions and Outside ReferencesEdit

  • While Robin is dating "the Ironman", she mentions he was able to get them into the hockey locker room, where she met Mason Raymond (who is an actual player).
  • When Barney says that he can't hit on women in his own bar, that he used to be a lion going in for the kill; Ted asks if he has a meat locker at home full of corpses, which is a reference to American Psycho.


Other NotesEdit



  • Omar G at Television Without Pity gave the episode a B.[1]
  • Donna Bowman of the AV Club rated the episode B+. [2]
  • The St. Petersburg Comic Review gave this episode 7.5 stars out of 10. "Barney's classic eight steps."

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